Thinking of You Messages: What to Write in a Thinking of You Card

It could be that you simply want to say hi and give your friend or loved one a nice little surprise in the mail. That’s great!

• “Hi, hello, hey there, howdy!”
• “Just a friendly little hello from me to you.”
• “Hi there! Just felt like sharing a smile with you today.”
• “Hey, you! What’s new?
• “In the immortal words of Adele, ‘Hello…it’s me…’”
• “¡Hola! Just thought I’d try multi-tasking by practicing my Spanish and saying hi to you at the same time.”

Writing Tip: You can easily build on a simple hello message by adding other thoughts and questions. Read on for some message building blocks you can stack on top…

Maybe you’re mostly just curious about what’s going on with the person you’re writing to. Asking “How are things?” is a good way to express caring and start a conversation.

• “What’s new with you?”
• “What’s up?”
• “What’s happening in your corner of the world?”
• “How have you been?”
• “I know you’ve been super busy. Just wanted to check in and ask how everything’s going.”
• “Just wanted to say hi and ask about what you’re up to these days.”

Writing Tip: Take care not to blame your recipient for losing touch, even inadvertently. “I haven’t heard from you in a while” can seem innocent enough when you write it, but to your reader, it can come across as though you’re placing all responsibility for keeping in touch on their shoulders.

It’s hard to go wrong by letting your friend or loved one know you’ve been thinking about them. In fact, it’s pretty much an automatic feel-good message.

• “I’ve been thinking about you.”
• “You’ve been on my mind a lot lately.”
• “Thinking of you always makes my day.”
• “Just wanted to send some happy thoughts your way today.”
• “I just came across an old photo of us, and it got me thinking about how much fun we always have together…”
• “Hey, I know it’s been a while, but I want you to know you’ve been in my thoughts.”
• “I’m sorry you haven’t heard much from me lately. I’ve been thinking about you often, though.”

Writing Tip: A quick apology for not staying in touch is fine, but don’t grovel or dwell on how busy you’ve been. Instead, keep your message forward-looking and focused on bringing the relationship closer again.

If you want to, use your personal message to pave the way for a follow-up chat.

• “Let’s talk soon.”
• “Let’s Skype. Just let me know what would be a good time for you.”
• “Call me when things calm down a little. It would be so good to hear your voice.”
• “I’d love to hear from you. Shoot me a text or an email when you get a chance.”
• “I can’t wait to catch up. I’ll call you Sunday night.”

Writing Tip: If you do suggest a follow-up chat, be sure to follow through. Don’t let “soon” turn into six months.